Here we are into the end of the roller coaster year – December 2018!
This year was about embracing new blessings and titles, getting out of the comfort zone, exploring the extent of being patient and thresholds of pain, hitting the bottom rocks and never losing heart, giving into the negative energies and coming out of it with new positivism.
The pregnancy times, when I was also working, taking long and bumpy rides to and from office every day, getting stuck into worst traffic jams due to metro construction, visiting doctor on the weekends, Wajahat had been giving constant reminders to me for medicines and getting excited to see our baby during ultrasound sessions, Mom regularly made fresh juices and minced meat and forced me to have it, dad kept praying all along, our families were taking care of us at their best during the process and after we made it to the finish line i.e. baby’s birth.
We were all excited to have our baby around. And already in love with our new little joy!
But really, don’t be heartless and don’t say,
“You are not the first one who is going through it.” or “C-section is so common these days, most of the mothers have it.”
No, you are wrong! And you need to stop generalizing it. And all those who really have gone through this does not say that; they remember their times and say,
“I know, its hard but you will be fine.” or “It will take a few weeks but try to walk more often.”
Be nice! And if you do not know what to say just listen and give her the space she needs. Let her rest more! She is exhausted more than you know it. There is a difference between inquiring about her health or having your gossips around her and making her more restless.
As a side note, can we have paternal leaves in this country? I understand that we have a culture of relying on our families, where mom-to-be is sent to her mother’s house for better care or for avoiding the nuisance of taking care of an expecting mother. but honestly, that is the best period of bonding between the partners and their new-born.
And that was the window both of us decided to utilize and enjoy the eccentricities of becoming first time parents.
We would not have made it to the end of the year as a “Happy Family”, if God has not been with us.
A child is certainly a miracle and whenever I see him, my faith in God gets stronger.
I could not thank enough to Him! And of course, a big thank you to Wajahat, my family, my in-laws, friends-like-family for all the support at all times; for giving us their best in our difficult times.